We’re all resistant to change – even when we know that we need a major upheaval. Fear of the unknown can take over us – fear that things might actually get worse, not better, and that the price for change might be just too big.
But this cautionary fear is often just a barrier that is a figment of our imaginations. We need to massively outweigh the negative obstacles we’re envisioning to overcome this barrier, by replacing them with even more massive reasons to move on.
Here’s a mathematical formula for change: D x V + F is greater than R …or… Dissatisfaction x Vision + First Steps is greater than Resistance to Change.
Our reasons for doing something have to become bigger than our resistance to change. When we’re thinking about making changes, it’s usually because we’ve become fed up with putting up with the circumstances in our current life. Whether it’s our career, relationships, job, lack of money – whatever we’re unhappy about, we have to break down the problem and make it a motivating force for action. In truth, we need to get down and dirty and really be honest with ourselves; life can be much more than the scraps we’re getting, and we don’t need to miss out any longer.
We can multiply the power of this dissatisfaction by visioning how positive things will be once we’ve made the changes. It’s a great feeling to mentally focus on a life of plenty, where we’re in control of our destiny because we took responsibility for change. The more we can visualise our success, the stronger our resolve becomes.
It’s not possible for our minds to hold positive and negative thoughts simultaneously, so by mentally pushing out the negative thoughts with positive ones, we lessen the power those defeatist feelings had over us, and strengthen our will.
Once we’re mentally prepared, we can add the first steps towards change. Small, encouraging moves build confidence, and we start to generate a positive feedback loop which pushes us to more action and then more self-esteem and confidence. Building on these areas eventually overcomes and breaks down our resistance to change.
A member of the Scottish Himalayan Expedition, W N Murray wrote:
“…Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: That truth is, the moment one commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events occur once the decision is made, raising in ones favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”
In the same manner Goethe said, “Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now.”
“Who Moved My Cheese” by noted author Spencer Johnson comments on the different ways we respond when there’s a need for change. It’s too simple to think that those who achieve in life are lucky, that somehow things were easier for them – they had all the breaks. In truth we make our own luck, by making the decision when to move, and then committing to its execution wholeheartedly.
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